Shifting Priorities

February 5, 2018
Najran, Saudi Arabia village I visited when I was 10!

Not too long ago I turned 30, and as you can tell by my last few blog posts I have recently been doing a lot of reflecting on life. I’ve unearthed and learned a lot about myself in the process. I accomplished a lot in my 20’s, but I still feel like there are things missing in my life, and I don’t feel 100 percent fulfilled. I’ve taken note of the things that make me happy, and the things that just down right make me stressed and sad. As I look back over the years I’ve noticed that I’ve felt happiest when I’m traveling and doing the things that I love. Essentially, I LIVE for adventures. I’ll blame it on the six years I live overseas in Saudi Arabia with family when I was younger. I had the incredible opportunity to explore a new cultures, and out of that grew the desire to travel.

We moved back from Saudi Arabia in the summer of 2001, and I’m sad to say I have not traveled outside the U.S. since. My passport has even expired, and it’s been on my list of things to take care of for the last two years. In all honesty the problem hasn’t been having the time to travel; it’s been not having the money. I’ll admit, I’ve been stupid with money. Over the years I’ve cared more about how I’d be perceived rather than worrying what’s right for me. Social media has been a larger influence on the decisions I’ve made, and lately I’m over it. Peoples perceptions of me are not going to make me successful. I don’t need the nicest clothes, a nice car, the newest iPhone, unnecessary gadgets, and a large apartment. These (things) have no bearing on my success, or more importantly, my happiness.

When I turned 20 I decided to make a list of ten things I wanted to do before I turned 30. Looking at the list today, I realized that at least six items on the list were experiences rather than material objects or financial goals. I wanted to see the Eiffel Tower, go scuba diving in the Great Barrier Reef, and even FLY IN A FIGTHER JET. These were all completely feasible to complete before 30, but somewhere along the lines I lost focus on these goals, and my priorities got shifted to putting more value on material objects rather than these experiences.

After coming to these realizations, and feeling a little disappointed in myself, I’ve made the objective to shift my priorities for my 30’s. First step, working my ass off to create financial freedom. This includes working hard to increase my income, learning to live with less, and no longer giving a shit about how people perceive my life. The only thing that will lead me to success is hard work, focus, and persistence; not the validation of others. 7 years ago I graduated from college with a degree in engineering, and I’m still working to pay those student loans off. It’s defeating when I realize how little of the percentage I’m paying monthly is g0ing towards my principle balance. So yeah…wiping those out of my life very soon…

With that said, I’m going to have to change my habits and come up with new systems that help me stay on track financially. It’s also going to require me to find new sources of income. My goal by the end of the year is to have 2-3 passive income streams created. This is a top priority because it will allow me more freedom to live a life of more adventures. I’m excited to get started on this new lifestyle, and I’m even more excited to share updates with you. I’m determined to make 2018 the BEST YEAR EVER, and I hope you join me on my journey. If you have been in a similar boat and have found the freedom to live a fulfilling life I’d love to hear from you! If so, please leave a comment below! In the meantime, check out my new list below of ten things I want to finish before I’m 40. (Yikes that was hard to write….FORTY) Sigh….


  1. Become DEBT FREE
  2. See the Eiffel Tower
  3. Skydiving in Dubai
  4. Scuba dive in the Great Barrier Reef
  5. Get my pilots license
  6. Visit Iceland
  7. Fly in a fighter jet
  8. Run a marathon
  9. Launch Social
  10. See a SpaceX launch


I know this is a lofty list….but I have TEN years to complete the list, and I’m more determined than ever.


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  • Brittany February 5, 2018

    You will do all of these things. If anyone can jtsylu!

  • Brittany February 7, 2018

    I can certainly say I know just how you are feeling! While I haven’t made a list of things that I want to accomplish by the time I’m 30, I have been making lists of the every day “things” that give me so much joy! At the beginning of January I decided to begin a 3 month contentment challenge to not buy any unnecessary purchases. I constantly felt defeated by “friends” I had never met on social media- whether or not my home was ever enough or if my business was successful enough. I’m almost half way through my second month and while I certainly still have an urge to buy (it definitely was a favorite hobby!), I have found a lot more peace within. I’ve taken a nice bright look around me to see how much I have to be grateful for, I’ve been donating money to charities or gofund me accounts that sat on my heart and I have been able to pat myself on the back for my businesses small victories! If you check on Nancy Ray Photography’s blog, you can read all about her contentment challenges! Best of luck to you in 2018!! (Sorry for the long post! I’m a bit long winded!! LOL)

  • Anna February 8, 2018

    I’m proud of you. And I’m grateful to be reminded to love truthfully. And you will do all these things. And stop saying the ‘f word’ ? haha. I’m not even ready for thirty.

    You have and always will be driven toward adventure, and my hope is that along the way you find authentic people that see you, and not the ’image of you think the world needs (that’s so easy to get caught up in, and we all do it!)

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